the power of daily rituals (and how small habits change everything)

this week, we’re slowing down and getting intentional with the small rituals that shape how we show up for ourselves. in the #selflove100, week 11 is all about building simple, supportive habits that remind you to pause, breathe, listen, and return to yourself throughout the day. 

these rituals don’t have to be big or transformative- they just have to feel like love. let’s make space for the practices that actually ground us, hold us, and help us feel like ourselves again.

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It's officially week 11 of the Self-Love 100, 100 Days of Loving Yourself More. I have my heated blanket on and I am so ready to chat with you guys today. I haven't sat here on my couch for a podcast episode in a hot minute. I think like I'm just a healing perfectionist in this. This wire here bothers me, and then the lighting's not perfect. That bothers me. It's fine, but I figured I would maybe set up a little ritual for myself tonight. Turn on my heated blanket, sit in the COMT spot of the couch, and talk to my favorite people. And funny thing, creating rituals. Is everything that week 11 is all about. Welcome back to the Self-Love Archives podcast. I'm your host and your self-love bestie. Julia Salvia. Welcome or welcome back to the podcast. We have been doing a series ever since September. All about. The Self-Love 100. Now, if you have been tuning in and listening and you're wondering, where do I get the self-love 100, how do I download it? All of the information is in the show notes the description below so you can download the very much free download of the Self-Love 100. The Self-Love 100 is a bunch of habits and tasks for you to complete every single day. In order to love yourself more. So the goal is that if you are intentional about the habits and the routines that you put into your life, that you will come out of this 100 days loving yourself more. And I can guarantee you that if you have been here for a little bit of time or if you are just starting the challenge, I can promise you that you probably are already noticing that you're loving yourself a little bit more. There's something really important about the self-love 100 that's so incredibly different from any other challenges or journeys or things that you may have tried, and that is that each of the habits or the tasks or to-dos, whatever you wanna call them, of the self-love 100 are not meant to be specific. They're meant for you to make them specific. They are meant. To turn them into something that is intentional for you, something that fits your lifestyle, your body, your health, your mind, your heart, your soul. These habits and tasks and to dos like nourishing and fueling your body, moving your body, spending time with yourself. Affirmations. These are meant for you to turn them into something that works for you, something that aligns with what your life looks like. A problem that I have seen across the board on all of these challenges or diets or anything like that, is that they're so specific. We are not one in the same. What works for me might not work for you, and what works for you might not work for them, but maybe something that you do could work for me, but maybe I just need to tweak it a little bit to make it perfect, to make it more aligned with my lifestyle and when I good, everything is different. That's why the habits in the Self-Love 100 are very generalized. They're not specific. They're meant to be generalized so that you can make them more specific based on your needs in this chapter of your life. Right now, the Self-Love 100 overall is meant to be a ritual. It's meant to be something that you enjoy doing because you know that it's doing something for you because you know that it feels good when you do X, Y, and Z every single day because you know that when you give yourself, when you choose yourself and you give yourself more love, that that feels amazing. And that's what the Self-Love 100 is all about. It's not necessarily about the habits themselves more than it is about choosing yourself every single day. So in week number 11, it's all about creating rituals. Kind of like how the self-love 100 overall is a ritual. I want you to get more specific for week number 11, and I want you to find something that you can consistently do. Anything can be a ritual, but what does that look like for you? For me, creating a ritual could be making sure that I go to bed maybe a little bit earlier than I am, quote unquote, supposed to in order to get the adequate amount of rest that I wanna get every single night. So I'm heading upstairs at around 10 15, 10 30 to do my skin. Which is a little ritual that has been so ingrained in my life that the only way I am not doing my skincare routine is if I fall asleep on the couch and after my skincare routine, I'm brushing my teeth, putting my hair and heatless rollers if I want to, and then I am getting into bed and I'm reading a book before I go to bed. That right there is just a little snippet of a little ritual that I do for myself as often as I can. Something else. I love starting my mornings with a ritual On a perfect day, I'm waking up maybe only about 45 minutes before I need to get to a Pilates class, which I absolutely love. It is the perfect way to move my body, especially when high intensity impact workouts just were not working for my body anymore. So I'm getting up about 45 minutes before my workout and I'm spending. 15 of those, doing my morning skincare, brushing my teeth, putting on my clothes. I'm spending those 45 minutes doing things for me. In this 45 minutes. I do not look at my phone. I don't see if I have any messages or any dms or anything like that. I am going straight into taking care of me, so I'm doing my skincare routine. I'm brushing my teeth and putting on my clothes for the day, and then heading over. To my office in this very spot that I'm sitting in right now, and I have this little table with an astrology calendar that I journal in almost every single morning or at least try to journal in every single morning. And I just write the like two to three sentences of what is on my mind. Then I sit here and I meditate for about 10 to 15 minutes, and some days I don't have the time to do both, and some days I may might wake up a little bit late and I don't have the time to do them at all. But what I do know is that I come back to this ritual. Even after the days that maybe I didn't have enough time, or maybe I had an early flight to catch, or maybe the day just took me in a different direction, or maybe I just wanted a little extra sleep. All I know is, is that I come back to this ritual, to this little part of my bigger routine because I know that it gives back to me. So what is that for you? What rituals? Life, whether they are these mundane rituals or it's a ritual of taking yourself out for a cup of coffee every single Friday, or it's going for a walk in a really beautiful park down the street every single Monday. What is your ritual and how do you give back? To yourself, what is something that you find joy in consistently doing for you? Maybe your ritual is something a little different. Maybe it's taking yourself out for a solo dinner every single month. Maybe it's writing a letter to your future self, or maybe it's writing a letter to your past self. Could it be doing a birthday photo shoot every single birthday? I like that one. I think I, I need to add that in. I need to do that every single year. So for week number 11, I want you to notice maybe the rituals that you've already been doing, the ones that you come back to every week, every day, maybe every month, or every year that you do for you. And maybe you don't have any, and maybe it's time to think of something. That you can do for you, whether that is every day, every month, every year. Make it special. Make it something that is enjoyable, and it could be one of those things that maybe it's a little bit more fun. I know we've been talking so much about doing a lot of these. Deeper work type of rituals like meditating or journaling or moving our bodies, like going for a walk or taking ourselves out on a date. Maybe none of those tickle your fancy and you're looking for a little crafty ritual, like sitting down and painting, putting some time aside to work on that puzzle that you have been meaning to get to for some time. I think of a ritual like we do with traditions. Like every single Christmas we put on the ornaments on the tree together, or every single birthday. It's always cake card, candles. What is your tradition for yourself? What is something that you do for you that could be considered a ritual? If you're having a tough time this week trying to figure out what a ritual is for you, try to think about the things that you have been wanting to do, and if you can't think about anything that you've been really wanting to do, or maybe there's really isn't anything that you've been wanting to do, what about trying something new? If you've never built a puzzle before, I don't know, pick one up. If you've never gone to this store, or to this town, or to this place, maybe take a drive there. If you've been struggling to keep up with your skincare routine, maybe romanticize it a little bit more, make it a little bit more fun, make it a whole thing. Maybe you really do want to wake up 45 minutes before your day actually starts. You want to do things for you, but it's just been so hard getting up. Go to sleep a little bit earlier the night before. Set the 25 alarms that you need to set to get up. Make yourself a promise that you are going to get up. That doesn't mean that you have to start doing all of these things for you. Go cold Turkey and just do it right away. Go from zero to 100 maybe today. If you're at the beginning of the week and you're just starting this, maybe today, all it is is just getting yourself up and then the next day it's getting yourself up and doing the first thing that you wanna do for yourself. Then maybe the third day it's getting up, doing the one thing that you wanna do for yourself, and then romanticizing your skincare routine. Give yourself a little bit of time to create these rituals and they can be anything and everything under the sun. Give yourself something special to look forward to every single day or every single week. Month, year. Give yourself your very own ritual, your very own tradition. That's just for you. Work on this this week and we're gonna come back and talk a little bit more about romanticizing your life with these rituals. Remember that what you do for you is incredibly important too, not just what you do for everyone else. Take that reminder with you this week and I'll see you back here on week number 12 of the Self-Love 100 on the Self-Love Archives podcast. Bye.